So another year on us and hopefully a renewed reinvigorated version of our self all girded up and ready to battle on.
Just like I mentioned in a post (A New Beginning) some years back. I still refuse to set any goals or make a concrete resolution.
But this time around I’m going to turn a little 180⁰ and stop being too gentle on myself. I’m going to be a lot more ambitious by trying to convince myself and maybe some of you to look into changing the very nature of our being. Now a fair warning to anyone who is prone to depression or morbid self blame – STOP READING. I don’t want to be responsible for any suicidal thoughts by anyone given to despairing about themselves. My whole piece is based on How its really all your fault, yes it truly is!
My whole “new” philosophy is not really new, it’s pretty simple and probably been said ad infinitum by self help gurus everywhere. In one line - Accept responsibility for your life. It’s one of those things you always read and hear about, and don’t necessarily disagree with but never stop to think how it applies to your own everyday mundane existence. The important word here is mundane. I think people who undergo immense life changing experience can readily understand this concept of being thankful and taking ownership of thier own lives. But the majority of people like me, who never had to suffer drastically through their live, strangely are the ones who seem to crib and complain the most.
Oddly where we should be thankful for everything, we seem to give thanks for nothing. Almost every time its someone else fault, He was a creep, she is a b…h, my boss never got my true capabilities, My spouse never understood me. I just don’t have the time, if only I had a little bit more money. They will never let me go ahead because I’m …….[white, black, brown, immigrant, woman, young, old and so on and on].
Now I’m not saying that other people or circumstances cannot be an impediment to our success or goals, but that’s what they are - only a hindrance, a mere pebble in the shoe, an obstacle that you should not use as a crutch by making it the whole reason for your failure.
So stop finding excuses, go and hit the gym, talk to your kids and family, improve your skill sets and look for new opportunities, laugh often and loudly. Take ownership of yourself. Remember whatever you want out of life is in your hands and finding people and reasons to blame is never going to help. To paraphrase a line from the movie Batman - "It's not who you are , but what you do that defines you".
In short what you have is YOUR problem and YOU are the solution!
